I love a good quote, especially when it sums up, in one sentence, what would take me a paragraph to say.

I cut them out of books or magazines and plaster them on the fridge or have them scattered around my desk or purse. I love a simple, but precise, quote or one-liner.

I was frantically looking for some paperwork I knew I had just seen but now couldn’t locate. When you work in an office, all by yourself, there’s no one else to blame, so I was mad at myself for not being able to remember which pile of papers I had put it in.

Anyone who knows me well can attest to my messy desk, messy closet and messy vehicle. I’m just messy. Eventually I found the paper I was looking for and how it got in with my folder of quotes, is anybody’s guess. It was connected to one of my all-time favorites, "responsibility is when you stop blaming your parents."

Maybe my love for one-liners came from being raised by a man who could possibly hold the world record for quotes and one liners. Dad was a man of few words through most of his life until the dementia stole his ability to be witty.

Looking back I realize there really wasn't a need for many words from him as there wasn't any negotiating or plea-bargaining when I was growing up. When my parents said no, it never crossed my mind to try and plead, bargain or whine about it. No meant no.

Dad was stern and his drill sergeant haircuts seemed to make him even more intimidating. Years of construction work made him rough and tough on the outside and weak and weary on the inside, with only enough energy, it seemed, to spit out one liners for any dilemma or occasion. He demanded respect and he got it and in return he received my love and care when he needed it the most. He taught me everything in life is earned and not given, and rarely fair, and how to deal with it.

Maybe we’d be better off, as a whole, if we honestly owned up to our faults, bad behaviors and decisions. Whether you’re blaming parents, the government, your spouse or society, the bottom line is, as an adult, you can only fix yourself. Then, in turn, we raise kids who can fix themselves.

Bad things are happening. People are making really bad decisions and hurting other people. Everyone wants to blame it on someone or something else. Everyone has an opinion but no one has the answer.

I will join the bandwagon and give my two cents’ worth with a quote from the Man with the plan.

"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6)

 

-- Sandy Turner lives in Independence. Email her at sandydownhome@hotmail.com