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  • Sandy Turner: This picture is worth more than a thousand words

  •  Nearly 10 years ago when entering into this relationship, we agreed to check all our baggage at the door. Making a commitment to him was easy, keeping the baggage at bay, not so much.

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  •  Nearly 10 years ago when entering into this relationship, we agreed to check all our baggage at the door. Making a commitment to him was easy, keeping the baggage at bay, not so much.
    He does a much better job focusing on today and is obsessed with what's going to happen tomorrow. I live for what's happening today, and don't think much about the future but will unfortunately slip into worrying about the mistakes I've made in the past, which has nothing to do with him or our relationship.
    Luckily we have more in common than not, and we both agreed to be mindful of how this relationship would affect our grown children. When you blend a family when kids are little, and you're still in control, they basically have no choice but to go along with who you choose to share your life with. Adult children can just as easily choose not to be a part of your decisions, whether you like it or not. Luckily, for us, they liked it.
    This Mother's Day I was given a gift from all of the kids and grandkids and even though I love the family portrait they gave to me, it was the meaning behind the photo that brought me to tears.
    Neither one of us can replace their parents, but a bond has been formed which gives all the kids the opportunity to have another person in their life for support and love. This canvas picture of them, all dressed in white, smiling like a family who enjoys being together, melted my heart.
    I can't imagine what kind of planning it must have taken just to find a time that would work within their busy lives, much less, keep it a secret from me. Four kids, three spouses, one fiancé and four grandkids and they all look like they should be models. The grandkids, oh, how I love those grandkids. Even the 4-month and 7-month-olds were looking straight into the lens of the camera as if posing for a group photo was an everyday occurrence.
    I'm not sure how they could ever top this, except of course, they continue to have a photo taken each year. I'll resort to dropping subtle hints, although I may not have to as eventually another grandkid will warrant another photo.
    We are fortunate this blending of families happened so seamlessly, without effort, and so genuinely. They are no longer just his kids or my kids; they're our kids.
    The picture was hung in the dining room directly in my line of vision from the recliner that's my fortress during the evenings. Every 15 minutes I couldn't help but glance over at it, and every time tears would well up from gratitude.
    Page 2 of 2 - Just when I thought the day was over, our golden retriever pranced up to my chair with an envelope in his mouth. A special delivery in which there was a gift certificate for a day of relaxation at the spa.
    Although I appreciate the gift card, he doesn't realize that being a part of this family and having him by my side is all I could ever want or ask for.
    No sense letting a slobbery gift card go to waste. I called the spa.
    Sandy Turner lives in Independence. You can reach her at sandydownhome@hotmail.com.
     
     
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