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  • Sandy Turner: The truth and nothing but... about my valentine

  • I couldn’t think of a better time than just before Valentine’s Day to just come out with it. I’ve skirted around this long enough and although it may not be traditional, morally correct or ethical, it’s the truth.

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  • I couldn’t think of a better time than just before Valentine’s Day to just come out with it. I’ve skirted around this long enough and although it may not be traditional, morally correct or ethical, it’s the truth.
    Some readers just wonder why the love of my life is referred to as the boyfriend, while others just come out and ask the age old question of, “when is he going to make an honest woman out of you?” I want to be honest about this, so that’s why I’ve decided to just put it out on the table and let the cards fall where they may.
    I’ve been challenged by readers, who think it inappropriate to write about anything that even insinuates we are living together, and not as husband and wife, so I tip-toe around and try to word life’s happenings without coming right out and saying it – I am living with the man I love and we are not married.
    The question remains – why not get married? There’s not a single reason not to. The boyfriend is my world, my everything and I can’t imagine living a single minute of a single day without him. Marriage is what’s supposed to happen next – and then, before we knew it, 10 years passed by as we married off children, had grandbabies and parented our parents. It’s not an excuse, just life.
    I could argue the point of what has happened to the sanctity of marriage as it has taken all kinds of strange turns over the years but I won’t, because I do believe in this sacred ceremony and what it stands for. I also believe, although not traditionally accepted as being morally correct, living as husband and wife isn’t the worst thing a person could do in society nowadays.
    To those of you who are offended by what is referred to by some as “living in sin,” I can only wonder how you avoid seeing or hearing worse from television, movies or the radio and to please keep in mind that what’s acceptable in the world of being a couple has drastically changed. Not that it makes it right, but I also don’t think it makes me all that bad.
    I know I probably sound a little cynical but I’ve been criticized for writing about my belief in God and then hypocritically live with a man I’m not married to. I can’t argue this point and I will only answer to one judge, plus, I don’t want to offend God anymore than I already have by never including Him in my writings.
    Back to my Valentine. Have I told you lately how simply wonderful he is? He’s my best friend and love of my life. He takes care of me, my kids, my grandkids, my dad and anything and everything that brings a smile and happiness to my world.
    Page 2 of 2 - There’s not a doubt in my mind he would offer his last breath to save mine, and that, my friends, is truly, “till death do we part.”
    Sandy Turner lives in Independence. Email her at sandydownhome@hotmail.com
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