• Annie Dear: Why won't some people take ownership?

  • I wonder if the adage “take responsibility for your own actions” is taught in school or even in the home any more.

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  • I wonder if the adage “take responsibility for your own actions” is taught in school or even in the home any more.
    Take for instance, a couple of years ago the sight of me standing open mouthed and slightly shaken in my kitchen as I watched half of our patio door shatter into a million bright little shards the sound echoing like a rifle shot as an errant golf ball hit the glass.
    I waited with Sir in the kitchen as the perpetrator rode over the crest in his golf cart – bold as brass – right into our yard to retrieve his ball. On seeing us, his first and only comment was: “I don’t have to (expletive deleted) pay for that”.
    He was right, of course. Fully aware of caveat emptor – buyer beware - of living in a house in a golf course, I am completely conversant with the fact that it really is my tough luck if a crummy golfer breaks anything. Thinking about it, the alternative is just as nasty. If the reverse was true, these golf course houses would all be fronted by enormous swathes of netting to stop runaway golf balls, and I certainly wouldn’t want to live with that.
    However - where is the morality? No offer of compensation, not even an offer to help clean up the mounds of glass – absolutely nothing positive was forthcoming from this charmer.
    Now I take you on a similar, but much more blood chilling saga of our little mate down south – our Little Hot Tamale and her cute as a button tiny poodle Scooter. Scooter was set upon by their neighbor’s large dogs and it was seriously touch and go whether the little boy would make it through a complex surgery to get his innards back to where they should be.
    These neighbors, professing of course eternal friendship and heartfelt sympathy with initial offers to cover all costs, spent the next morning pacing out their boundary to somewhat triumphantly announce that the attack happened two inches inside their fenceless property.
    Now I don’t know about you, but no dog I’ve ever known has gone out for a private piddle taking a copy of the land survey of the yard with him.
    Now of course there is a great deal of back-peddling about coughing up any dough at all. After all, one of the dogs isn’t even owned by the neighbors, it being on permanent vacation with them – but they don’t seem to want to take any responsibility at all, suggesting that our Little Hot Tamale take it up with the actual absent owner herself if she expects any recompense.
    They’ve now erected a makeshift fence, showing huge concern of course, but obviously blithely unaware of that other adage. They’ve locked the stable door after the horse has bolted.
    Page 2 of 2 - Come on people, take responsibility for something that rests squarely on your shoulders and do what’s right and that which will allow you to sleep straight in bed at night.
    Thank God it wasn’t a child.
    Annie Dear lives in Lee’s Summit. Email her at anniedearkc@hotmail.com.

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