<div class="byline"><b>Jeanne Phillips<\/b><\/div>\n<b>DEAR ABBY: <\/b>I am a wife and mother in my late 30s. I\u2019m also a registered nurse, beginning a master\u2019s degree program to advance my career. I consider myself to be an intelligent person, and I did well in college.\n\nMy husband is also intelligent, and I\u2019m proud of his accomplishments in his career. However, he can be arrogant at times, giving the impression that he is smarter than everyone else around him -- including me.\n\nToday, I overheard him talking to his boss, whom he told about the master\u2019s program I am starting in a few weeks. He then told his boss he would probably have to write some of my papers for me. I couldn\u2019t believe he said that. First of all, it\u2019s not true; I would never have anyone complete my work for me.\n\nSecond, I found it insulting that he would say I need him to complete my assignments. (We are in different fields. He is an engineer.)\n\nHe didn\u2019t know I was home when he said it, but I walked into his office as soon as I\n\nheard. He looked startled and apologized, but I just can\u2019t get over it. I feel so hurt and humiliated. Is this what he tells his co-workers about me? How do I move on? <b>-- <\/b>\n\n<b>ACCOMPLISHED IN OHIO DEAR ACCOMPLISHED: <\/b>Your engineer husband\u2019s ego may be threatened because you are becoming more academically accomplished. He may also have been trying to inflate his image in his boss\u2019s eyes by casting you as \u201cthe little woman\u201d when you caught him red-handed. Regardless of what he may say to others, your accomplishments speak for themselves. Don\u2019t you forget that. As for how to move on, it may depend upon your willingness to forgive him for his frailties.\n\n<b>DEAR ABBY: <\/b>My son \u201cAlex\u201d and his girlfriend, \u201cDee,\u201d lived together for eight years. We were all very close and did lots of family things together with my other son and his family. Alex broke up with Dee two years ago, although they continued talking for some time afterward. We all hoped they would make up. He was under a lot of stress at the time and suffers from depression and anxiety. He was sorry a month after the breakup, but Dee did not want to get back together.\n\nWe have stayed in touch.\n\nShe still skates with my daughter-in-law, and we met for brunch recently. Dee mentioned she met someone on an online dating site six months ago and it could get serious.\n\nThis man knows she feels it\u2019s time for marriage and a family. He is eight years older than she is, never married and has no kids. They are not living together. Dee has met his family. Should I let my son know?\n\nI feel Alex needs to move on, and he really hasn\u2019t. I think he still hopes they will be together.\n\n<b>-- PROTECTIVE MOM <\/b><b>IN CALIFORNIA<\/b>\n\n<b>DEAR MOM: <\/b>Dee told you she had met someone because she knew you would deliver the message to your son. If he has put his life on hold, hoping to reunite with her, he deserves to know it isn\u2019t in the cards -- so tell him.