To the editor:
I was saddened when I read Andre Reiley’s column (Nov. 17, “Bittersweet emotions: Why do so many families adopt from overseas?”) because I recently adopted my son from Guatemala, and in no way is it a bittersweet story.
The author indicated that it’s sad when families choose international adoption over domestic. The truth of the matter is that each person must choose how to start their family and no one else should make that choice for them. There are pros and cons to both types of adoptions, which is why it’s such a personal decision. A friend of mine adopted both internationally and domestically because at the time of each adoption one type was better for them than the other based on their current situations.
There are countless reasons why people adopt and why they choose one route over another. Some people are too old to adopt domestically, single parents may have better luck internationally, some people want closed adoptions, others want open or semi-open adoptions, some want a newborn, while others want older children, some want their kids to look just like them, others don’t care, some think culture matters, others don’t, some people can’t travel, some can, some people need to consider wait times, some worry about the cost and others about legal issues. This list could go on, but the point is all children need a good, loving home no matter their race, socioeconomic status or any other factor.
Starting a family is an important decision for everyone. Domestic adoptions work well for some people while for others birthing babies, foster parenting or international adoptions are better. Each family must do what is best for them and their current life situations. The decision to adopt (internationally or domestically) is in no way a sad choice, but one of hope, love, and life.
Adopting a child is joyous – and often complicated
To the editor: